My first parenting paradody is one in which I was parented. It gives such an example of how I want to raise kiddos. Let’s name it “Dad and the Dance”.
At 15 as a freshman, I was in a high school dance class. Think pre-drill team prep. We were given the opportunity to dance at half time for the Houston Rockets basketball team. We wrote a dance, we practiced long. We practiced hard.
The morning of the dance, I got nervous. I knew if I was “sick” or didn’t go to school this meant I would not be eligible to participate in the after school activity. So when Dad came to wake me…… cough cough….I told him I was sick and couldn’t attend school that day.
My dad simply said, “ok”. But before leaving for work he offered a story, a bit of wisdom. I’ll share it with you now:
My dad said, “If you go to a fancy restaurant and eat $100 worth of food (fancy is relative….remember this is 25 years ago), and you don’t have the money, you’re scared. You’re afraid. However, if you go to a restaurant and eat $100 worth of food and you know you have $100 bill in you purse and just can’t find it, you get nervous. It’s different. You know you have the $100, you just have to find it.”
What great advice. Even though dad doesn’t recall this bit of insight he provided that morning in the detail I do, I’m still talking about it 25 years later.
My dad left my room that morning saying, “You practiced, you know this, you just have to find it”.
Remember in life, you’ve got this. You have your $100. You just need to find it.